"For Joe, at this stage of his life, the future has never looked brighter. No more mysteries to unravel – just discoveries of what has been found."
When Joe was a young boy growing up, he sensed that something was missing in
his life. He was born to a single mother who lived in Texas. Not long after Joe
was born, his mother had met a man who was to become her husband. They married,
had some kids, and life went on. That is, until Joe's step father was no longer
in the picture. After that short marriage, Joe's mother never married again.
Joe, the eldest of two sons in the family, became somewhat of the patriarch at
a very early age.
As Joe grew up, his awareness of his upbringing became clearer. He knew that he
came from a different father than his siblings did. He had asked his mother
about who his father was, and she had only some clues to the puzzle. She remembered
he was in the Air Force and a fireman. That is where she met him - near an
Air Force Base in Houston. When she found out she was pregnant with Joe, it was
time for Joe's father to rotate to another duty station. Joe's mother was left
to give birth and raise Joe as a single mother. That is, until she met Joe's
step-father.
After Joe grew older, he went away to college. His thirst to find out who his
real father is (or was) grew stronger every year. He had a copy of this birth
certificate, and was hopeful he could find clues somewhere in that single piece
of paper. All he could find was a couple of oddities, besides the fact there
was nothing filled in on the birth certificate under “Father”.
First, his name. It was odd to have
a first name of simply "Joe". "Joe" is most always a
nickname for Joseph. Then then his middle name - Adams. "Adam" is not
an unusual middle name, but "Adams"? That was very unusual.
Joe had figured out the mystery to
his middle name "Adams" with the help of his mother. She told Joe it
was on his birth certificate that way as "Adams" was the name of his
biological father. That helped a bit, but the clues he had so far, were scarce.
Then what really got him thrown off the trail was when his mother’s sister told
him his father’s name was Covington. That made a confusing situation ever more
confusing for Joe. He was searching for an Air Force vet with a somewhat common
last name like Adams, or Covington. This made searching for his father
something like searching for a needle in a haystack.
Joe finished college and went on to
law school. He got married, and started a family of his own. However, that one
question kept gnawing at him. Who am I? Who is my real father? Is he still
alive? What is my family history? Good? Bad? Health Issues? Or what?
Many years later as Joe's family continued to grow up, something happened which
proved to be a key to this mystery. It was going to unlock at least one of the
doors. Technology had advanced to the point where a simple saliva test could
show one's DNA. It could show a person's heritage and maybe even some relatives
with similar DNA.
Joe decided he had nothing to lose by trying the test, so he sent away for it.
He followed the directions, boxed it up, and mailed it back. No response. All
the excitement Joe had about this test, withered away when five weeks later, he
finally received back a note from the DNA company. Joe's test had failed. The
company would however, send him another kit, and he could do it again for no
additional charge.
This time Joe was nowhere near as excited as the first time. He had put the kit
on a shelf, and that is where it stayed. Finally, after about five months, he
took the test again. Joe sent the kit in, and within the next four weeks, he
received an email response. A hit! The test identified someone else with Joe's
same DNA patterns! It was someone Joe was related to! This just might be a key,
or hopefully the key, to finding out
who Joe's real father is.
A bit of irony here first. The other person who took the test was a grandson of
Joe's real father. He just recently completed the kit (less than two months
before Joe sent in his first test kit) so this was truly a blessing from God.
If for some reason he had not done this, Joe's DNA sample would have come back
with his heritage, but no relatives on his father’s side – only his mother’s.
Because his father's grandson had taken the test, a very important part to this
puzzle was now in place.
Joe got the contact information for this person whose DNA matched his. Is this
one of the relatives he has been searching for? Someone who could help Joe
located his real father? Joe sent this person of this new opportunity an email
via Ancestory.com, but there was no
response. And then came the real twist.
Joe learned by looking at this new
contact’s family tree on Ancestory.com,
he did find out the new contact’s great-grandfather’s name was “Adams”. Not
only Adams, but Joe Adams! Then the
pieces started to fit together. Hope now surged in Joe like never before.
Within four hours, with the help of
Google and Facebook, Joe was able to confirm that Joe Adams might not only be his
grandfather’s name, but also his father’s name. If this was true, Joe would be
the third of three generations of Joe Adams.
This new contact Joe found had a
grandfather who now appeared to be Joe’s father. Yes, the new contact’s
grandfather is a retired Air Force vet and fire chief. And yes, he is still
alive at 87. The gnawing feeling, which Joe had for most of his life, now
started to go away. He was now sure he found his other family! This “new
contact” was really Joe’s nephew! And his nephew’s grandfather, was also Joe’s
father!
Joe then found out he had other siblings from his biological father (seven to
be exact). And nieces and nephews galore. But now came the phone call which he
had been waiting for most of his life. After decades of searching and
wondering, he was finally going to be able to contact his father.
The contact was as good as Joe could have ever imagined! Joe's father had found
a son, and Joe had at long last found his father. This "Hail Mary"
pass of taking the DNA test coupled with some deep and serious prayer on the
previous Father’s Day, led to the last turn in the road.
Up to now, this last turn was the
final part on an incomplete journey. As it turns out, the last turn was going
to be the best one. Joe was going down to Texas to meet not only his father,
but many other members of this new family he had never seen nor known.
As the time for the trip approached, Joe decided to contact an old friend who
now worked at Fox News. That friend
is Pete Hegseth. To Joe this made sense. Pete's family is local to Minnesota,
he is a vet, and he was connected with Fox
News. Joe asked Pete if Fox News
would be interested in this story. A story about an Air Force veteran, a son he
had never met, meeting for the first time in Texas.
Fox News agreed this story was too
good to pass up. They agreed to cover it. The Fox crew went to Houston early that weekend, and had it set up for a
network feed. Meanwhile, Joe was on a plane headed to Texas with butterflies
the size of eagles in his stomach. The excitement, the nervousness, the
apprehension, all were rolled into one emotion.
When Joe arrived, and walked up to meet his father, they hugged like a father
and son would do. Was there a dry eye? Not at my house when I watched the
reunion on TV. It was without a doubt, one of the greatest quests, the longest
journeys that I had ever heard of. And now the journey was complete for Joe
Adams. Or should I say, Joe Adams Field.
On a side note, due to other
scheduling, Pete Hegseth was not able to be there that weekend. However, he did
interview Joe and his father the following Monday. Besides being broadcast, it
also went on YouTube. As of last August, the video had 1.2 million views. For a
great many people, this was a story worth watching.
This was an amazing journey for my friend Joe. When he and I discussed it over
lunch, the emotions of the journey could still be seen in Joe eyes, heard in his
voice.
But now Joe has another journey,
which is going to be just as wonderful. This is the journey of Joe and his
father getting to know each other, enjoying each other’s company. They will be
spending time with each other, doing all sorts of things that fathers, and sons
do together.
There is an additional bonus to Joe finding his father. That is Joe finding his
other family - the family he had never met. It has rekindled a desire for Joe
to reunite with his own broken family on this mother’s side.
Finally, how did Joe’s newly found family
treat him when he arrived for that first meeting in Texas? Like Joe had always
been part of them. He was family. Once unknown, and now known.
What does the future for Joe hold?
No more mysteries - just prayers answered. This insatiable desire to find his
real father has allowed Joe not only to find his father, but also a family he
never knew existed. A new family offering friendship, relationships and love.
Joe’s tomorrows will be bright with promise. For Joe, at this stage of his
life, the future has never looked brighter. No more mysteries to unravel – just
discoveries of what has been found.